“Resentment is like taking poison but expecting it will kill someone other than you.”
Living with joy, in the present seems like an easy task…so simple.
Actually…it’s incredibly hard as the current culture is steeped in resentment and trained to escape the present by browsing electronically into space. I won’t go into the latter, as most of you know my stance on social media and its ability to influence self-esteem and perception.
I do, however, want to focus on what ultimately keeps us from living in the present: RESENTMENT.
First of all, resentment is not a character defect, as the definition is “bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly”. Resentment is a fairly natural reaction to many of life’s challenges, because all of us at some point are treated unfairly. Unfortunately, many of us choose not to deal with the resentment, (and there is a choice) then victimization and sadness take a seat at our emotional table; because we were not valued enough to be treated well. Mission Accomplished: I Feel Invalidated.
Our minds begin to fill with scenarios of justice or revenge; like hoping the other person will have some tragic effect happen upon them because of how they treated us. Sound familiar? That is what the symptoms of unchecked resentment look like. Take a second look at the quote that starts this blog…making sense?
Again, feeling the initial resentment is OK, not dealing with it becomes the issue.
What is the antidote?
Joy and God is sad when we don’t take it and although it is elusive to find (at times) when we intentionally search for it we find it – Take it to the bank, I’m right about this.
I know, I know! This advice seems too simple and even tacky. But if you take even 5 minutes and find something to be joyful about within your life the resentment will shrink…do this everyday and all of a sudden the resentment will be gone. By the way, all of life’s best antidotes end up being the simplest one’s.
Finding joy needs to become a habit, sadly, many of us have found resentment and made that into a daily habit! Take a chance and reverse this.